Damn Millennials!

“The children now love luxury.  They have bad manners, contempt of authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise.”  This quote was from Socrates’ writings more than 2000 years ago.

The more things change the more perception remains the same.  I hear the same things today about our young generation, and I am tired of it.  Yes, they respond differently, they have had different experiences shaping their lives; technology, 9/11, inflated housing market.

They are also a product of the boomers who wanted the children to have the things many of them didn’t have growing up; cars, college education, current toys.  Most millennials did not lack for what they wanted.  They were expected to go to college or university and as a result wound up with an education, but a huge student debt load as well with low paying jobs as a reward for the education.

Millennials tended to be raised to be independent and this carries forward to their view of work.  They like to think for themselves and not do something because that is the way it has always been done.  They are problem solvers looking for quicker more-efficient ways of doing things.  If employers take advantage of this quality, it can be a benefit to the workplace.  Sadly, many employers just look at them as lazy, not wanting to fit the position when really, they are not being valued for their potential.

The millennials were not raised to see hierarchy and see everyone as equals.  They want to interact with everyone.  To some, this translates as having no respect for their elders.  ‘Respect’ in many ways has changed over the years and is more something that is earned, and not a ‘right’.

My observation from interviewing students over the past 10 years or so for Rotary programs has left me with the opinion that we are in good hands.  In our community we have Rotaract, Interact, and the Young Professionals of Nanaimo (YPN).  These are the young adults who are Millennials and their accomplishments are amazing.

These are the forward thinkers of tomorrow and our leaders.  Learn to engage them wisely, we will all benefit!

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We are sometimes blinded by what we see or our perceptions of who people are.  We consciously or subconsciously measure their abilities by what we see or hear.  That is not who they are.

Physical or mental issues can set limits, but by no means limits a person’s ability to contribute and enjoy the engagement of working and contributing.  We live in a timeframe where the workforce is struggling, and we need everyone who can contribute to the workforce to do so.

In my opinion there are two things that prevent this from happening.  One is employer attitude because they tend to ‘see’ someone who is not capable without even considering them.  Also, they may feel that this person is going to cost them a lot of money for accommodations in the workplace.  The second is knowledge that there are programs that can assist them in becoming self-employed and working to their capacity.

In the first case where employers are worried about costs, most accommodations are less than $500.  There are also employers who have Social Enterprises and employ and train those with developmental disabilities such as the COCO Café in Cedar, BC, and the Pie Factory in Parksville, BC.

In the second, the Self-Employment P through the Employment Program of British Columbia can give individuals the knowledge needed to start their business.  All they need is to be unemployed and visit their local WorkBC Employment Centre.

Everyone deserves to experience life to their potential.  This can only happen when we take off the glasses of judgment and view everyone as capable human beings.  Let’s work towards inclusion, not exclusion.

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Proactive vs. Reactive

I have always said that in small business, especially sole proprietorships where you are a ‘one-man band’, so to speak, if you are out there seriously marketing you have little time to work in the business and if you are working hard in the business you have little time for marketing.

This is just one example of why any business or organization needs to recognize when they are being reactive rather than proactive.  I don’t mean those one-day panics which will occur when you least expect it or want it.  I’m talking about when you get to the point where putting out fires becomes the norm in the operation of the business.

Being reactive takes you away from interacting with your customers or clients to find out their changing needs.  If you have employees, it may take you away from maintaining good human resource practices in the organization.  You will not have time to assess the changing business landscape in your community and you may start to miss valuable details.

In addition, a constant state of being reactive will eventually lead to a breakdown of health.  Stress sets in and the mental fatigue will deteriorate even the strongest.  Sole proprietors especially need to be careful as they are the business.  If they have to take time off, the business generally does not get done.

Ensure good planning in the beginning, pay attention to the records, know why you did not match your business plan, and learn how to read the business financials.


Try to be ahead of the curve, not stuck on the hill!

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The Appearance of Professionalism

You can have all the skills in the world, but you need to look the part as well.

Realtors will tell you that an attractive entranceway to a home will determine how the prospective buyer views the rest of the home.  In the same way the first impression a customer or client has of you will determine how they view your qualifications.

I am going to pick on the moving industry.  Recently I hired a franchise moving firm to do a small move for me.  The two employees arrived looking like they had both just returned moments ago from a three-week camping trip in the bush.  In the end I was satisfied that they were knowledgeable in their trade, but I wondered what an elderly widow would have thought when they arrived at her door to do a move.

When I talk to people, this is a common complaint on that industry.  I know that not all are like this, but if you are trying to grow a business you really need to try harder.  Why doesn’t the franchise insist on neat grooming and corporate clothing, such as a jacket or shirt?

Some say I’m older than dirt, but when I went to school male teachers wore suits and female teachers wore business attire and you were never allowed to refer to them by their first name.  It was called respect and acknowledged them as a professional.  Now you can’t tell them from the students.

The way you appear when representing the business plays a significant role in your future success.  If it is your business, pay attention as it can affect the bottom line!

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Meant for Each Other

I see advertisements and articles online that try to educate those who have taken the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® as to which type is your best partner.  I know that curiosity plays a part in people wanting to know if their partner or potential partner is the ‘right’ one.

Having taken the Myers-Briggs® from a certified practitioner and had it properly debriefed, you will know that it is about how you communicate knowing that each of the sixteen personality types take in and respond to information in their own unique way.  If knowing these differences in type you choose to not accept them, then your relationship is not going to run smoothly.  The beauty of knowing personality type is that it gives you the tools to communicate effectively with others.

The beauty of life is that we are all unique, with our own gifts.  Even with the same letters describing our personality type, we will not be exactly the same or react the same way in times of stress.  Type is not perfect, but it is a starting point in understanding ourselves and those close to us, whether it be in the home or workplace.

There are no bad types.  Each brings their own strengths and weaknesses to their environment.  Any type can do any job although some may be more comfortable in the job than others.  Time and time again I have seen the value in Boards or management teams with a diversity of type.  You can’t choose team members by type but by understanding type, you can make the most of communication and decision-making.

This works with partners as well.  By understanding type and having a willingness to acknowledge your differences, you can be ‘meant for each other’.

Enjoy the journey!

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The Entrepreneurial Spirit

When we hear someone talk about entrepreneurs and the entrepreneurial spirit we often think of this brave individual charging off in the world of ideas, ready to venture out on his/her own.  What we don’t think of is the employee with all kinds of ideas on how to do the job better or create new direction.  This employee doesn’t want the risk of venturing out on their own.  They like the comfort of being employed and there are lots of them.

As an employer, you should be embracing the spirit of these individuals for they may be the ones to keep your business in the forefront in this ever-changing world.  They won’t however, if you constrain them in their everyday work and don’t engage them in conversation to get their thoughts on the work they are doing.

An employee needs to feel the environment that they work in allows them to contribute and doesn’t punish for making mistakes.  There is an old saying, “If you aren’t making mistakes, you’re not trying hard enough.”  There should be opportunities for employees to present a change in the way things are done and, if it seems reasonable, be allowed to try.  Sometimes it doesn’t work but, by trying, something else does.

A local Nanaimo firm had a large whiteboard on a wall.  If an employee had an idea, the name of the employee and the idea went on the board.  A team put the idea through its paces, recording each on the board, until there was a decision to use it, or not.  They were rewarded for the idea in either case.

If you do not include your employees in how your business functions, you are missing out on keeping processes simple and current.  The person doing the job usually has the information on how to do it more efficiently, if you ask them and include them.

A side benefit is you will have less turnover.

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The Power of a Smile

I was at the gas pumps this morning a little frustrated by the inability of the machine to read my card.  A lady at one of the other pumps came by and as she passed, she gave me a smile and said, ‘good morning’.  That smile and cheerfulness changed my outlook and interestingly, that of the pumps as well for my card now worked!

How many times has a smile made your day?  A simple gesture given freely can and does make a difference in people’s lives.  You don’t know the burden anyone you meet or pass by is carrying.

Smiles convey a happy workplace.  Seeing clerks in a store who smile and honestly look like the enjoy working in that environment encourage customers to return.  It is a place you want to give your business.  No-one likes going to a store or business where everyone looks like they lost their best friend.

People are genuinely more attractive when they smile.  The wrinkles you get around the mouth and eyes as we age show that we have had a lot to smile about in our lives.  Studies have shown that people are treated differently when they smile, it encourages positive interactions.

In Buffer, Leo Widrich’s blog ‘The Science of Smiling…’, he says, “Smiling stimulates our brain’s reward mechanisms in a way that chocolate, a well-recorded pleasure-inducer, cannot match.

And, unlike chocolate, a smile does not cost anything!  So smile, and see the power it unleashes!

“The expression one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.”  Dale Carnegie

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